By all means get to know the person you will marry. I still think children need to grow up in a married household but I know many of you don't agree with marriage as you think you will lose everything.
I still think getting a good prenup done and getting married go together.
Don't look for the best looking gal in the room. Find someone who has attractive features, a pleasant personality, and nice parents. In laws are important as they give you insight into the past and future. Get to know them too.
Stop waiting for that runway model who has no interest in any of you, and who probably isn't wife and mother material either. How many of you look like Tom Brady?
Talk about the important things before you get married: how you handle money, debt, saving money, spending money, children and how you will raise them. Money and how children are raised are the biggest reasons husbands and wives argue. Put it in a prenup.
But yeah...stop being lonely and alone if you're young and find someone!
What doesn't kill me makes me stronger.